Macovei Anda

Expressing your sadness while dealing with a breakup doesn’t necessarily come from the significant other with which you’ve parted ways with, but rather from the thought of not being able to feel emotional, and maybe physical, intimacy with someone. You are mourning for the memories you have created with a person, the feeling of being loved, having someone there for you when you needed them the most. Two people created something and when that bond breaks, despair usually comes into play. You fall into extremes in which you’ve never imagined yourself in. You cared for a person and wanted the best for them expecting the same in return and when that wish isn’t being fulfilled, usually sadness takes that role on. Breakups happen for a reason and when they do, they hurt. Which I believe is a good thing. Rather than focusing on your emotional loss, you should be focusing on how much you were able to be genuine and raw with your emotions. It’s hard to do that and many people can’t even reach that point. You should be proud of yourself for what you were able to achieve and create rather than thinking about how things could’ve been different if only if they didn’t go. You both gained and lost something, there are two ends of the spectrum. You choose which one you focus on in order to heal.

People preach blasphemous practices as of lately like it’s the norm. Being a degenerate with others just for the sake of you preserving your own safety is not something worth encouraging, stepping over other people’s consciousnesses as a cooping mechanism for the faulty intentions you’ve had in your past years is not “self-care”. Look around yourself for once and show some empathy. Show some empathy for those who are praying unlike you who would rather be cynical; those who believe in something you are afraid of hearing; for those who wish to make a chance in themselves in order to save the world unlike you who lives in a fear bubble away from the “society”. You’re still like a child who has no idea what the real world is. You’re still the child who’s perceiving the world through the guidance and eyes of the adults. You never expected you’d have to grow out of that state, did you now? What a pity, oh, what a shame.

Some kids these days think they are so smart pointing out famous artists’ addictions as if it’s something to make you dislike their work. Some kids these days feel this entitlement to pretend they are better than the people they are discussing as being “not worthy of praise”. I have to ask those same kids, on what accounts do you feel like you have this right?

To judge a person at such a cruel level makes me wonder since when we’ve become such “great” critics. We are not perfect, nobody in our day and age nor past day and age were able to reach perfection. We’re so used to idolatrise this idea of being able to do no wrong, when that ongoing practice is just the result of our fears. We are projecting our fear of failure onto others, even if it means famous figures of the past. Why do we feel the need to focus on that certain part of someone’s lifespan? That’s just you wasting your time which could be put to good use in something productive to your own future. Unless, you’ve cracked the code. Please preach what you’ve learnt, even though I doubt you’ve reached that kind of knowledge. On the internet, behind a screen, everyone can feel powerful and wise. But what happens when that power is being taken away from us?

By pointing out someone’s wrongdoings, you are unconsciously creating a
syllogism in your head coming from their accomplishments “The person named A was an artist.” and the second premise you hold so close “The artist was a crackhead”, coming to the conclusion that “The person named A was a crackhead.” only focusing on the person as being a bad influence on our generation. Let me say this again: there is no good without bad, the main focus should be on how you are able to overcome that bad in order to create something good, that is, if you are able to acknowledge the two as being crucial to your self-growth, thus creating some sort of balance between the two before creating that masterpiece you might have potential to bring out into this world. But you are too shallow and too fixated on others to proceed further in your career. Those people you bash were able to leave their footprint onto us even in the present, but I doubt you’ll be able to do the same. You don’t have that courage and will those before you had. At the end of the day, I assume you’ll always be the background character, you really don’t deserve that first role.

Now, this lack of willingness should be bashed.

When making connections, make sure you won’t find yourself depending on the other person’s presence in your life. Ultimately, when they’ll be gone, you’ll be left nothing. They will leave with your wisdom and you will be left with a great nothing. Don’t project your ideals onto them, therefore making excuses for every mistake they’ve done to the people around them or even yourself. It is okay to be wrong from time to time, as humans, we are bound to make mistakes, but when they create reoccurring patterns, when they allow bad people into their lives, toxicity blurs out their feelings and thoughts and they can no longer think straight. You are not there to correct them for them, try and keep them away from their own faults, assuring them they did okay, no. That’s the courage they should find within themselves in order to change for the better. You can show them the right way to a rational mindset, but ultimately it stands in them whether or not they choose to stay on that path or completely close their hearts to new horizons. You will meet great people in your life, those who will encourage you, help you, aid you, but you’ll also have to face the complete opposite, those who ignore your achievements and only come to you when they themselves need aid, never the other way around. Be your own emotional support first and make sure to chase after your own aspirations before helping others. Be at peace with your own reflection, you’ll attract those with similar aspirations to you. Broken brings broken, but assured minds connect with other assured minds. You might be lost now, but don’t allow wandering souls onto your path now. You can’t afford to lose yourself in order to find them. Stay true to yourself. You’ll make it eventually.

When people fall out of love with eachother, many factors contribute to that change. It could be that one of the two parteners has grown as an individual, had managed to overcome their hardships and fears and had developed a more mature mindset while their partner.. Well.. Remained the same. The same person from the past, they stagnated while their partener has found new interests and constructed new ideals for themselves. It is not necessarily because one or the other has done something bad or good, it’s just that they didn’t have the right connection to work in union with eachother. And that’s okay. Their journey has come to an end in order for a new to be birthed to life. Love is hard to find and fake love ends when the bond of two souls hasn’t been strengthen enough. If anything else, it is something that should be celebrated about, as much as it might pain a certain individual. In order for the rainbow to appear across the sky, a horrible storm must pass by first. Good things come to those who work for them, those who are patient with themselves and the environment they live in. That’s how relationships are after all. You can’t expect for your partener to put up with all of your fusses or be willing to be dragged down by you. That’s not a relationship, that’s not a bond worth fighting for. Two souls must work with eachother and not by themselves to create something beautiful. You can’t keep the focus on one person only. When you love someone, not only do you want to keep them close, but you want to help and see them succeed in life. You want to be there for them and encourage them to work on themselves and be different every single day. You want them to learn new pieces of information which can contribute to their future. Those who are not willing to sacrifice their time in favour of their significant other, maybe should find themselves first before trying to bond with someone else. Only then, only when you have matured enough will you be able to take in consideration the value of another person coming into your life. It stands in your power whether or not will you allow that change to take place.

I feel like the most important feature, when talking about outer and inner traits, about a person is actually their personality. Of course, you might hear about this all the time, but the truth is that developing and working on being a honorable person and an important part of the society we live in takes years. At the core of it, it’s one of the hardest things to change about ourselves. We don’t have quick and easy alternatives in order to change a bad habit, improve a skill we want to idolize in our daily life, contribute time for our passions, those things inevitably take lots of time to develop. Unlike our outer self, what is first shown to the general public, our posture and physique can be altered without much work as long as you have the funds to do so. It’s not really necesarry in the long run when your inner self is rotten. When you only focus on your physical appearance rather than your inner self, bad habits will ultimately start to develop and they will start to show on the outside you’ve tried so hard to fool people with. You can be the most beautiful person to have ever existed, but if you only conciously make the wrong decisions and don’t have compassion for others, you are going to be left alone. It stands in our power whether or not we choose to do the right things. It all must start from the core and ultimately it will begin to show on the outside as well. Don’t neglect those factors as your own body will fail on you. You will lose your identity or be remembered as a bad example in your circle of people.

I often hear people talking about how we are not taught essential information and overall knowledge through the ways of media and cable television. The thing is, it can’t do better than that. It doesn’t want to do better than that. The people consuming the kind of TV programmes which are shown on the screen don’t have the ability or don’t wish upon acquiring that sort of will in order to understand more than that garbage. TV cable should be avoided at all costs by the smarter population as its only desire is to appeal to the illiterate people. People with a smaller quantum of knowledge and understanding will never be willing enough to work for things on their own and would much rather receive any sort of information through the easier ways, one of them being TV cable. That way of sending out information to the general public, that only wish to sell and spread idiocy, that is the easier way to raise their financial status. It’s not about setting an example for the people watching, but rather selling a product, a general “product”.

Real and genuine information will always be harder to swallow as it requires work and time in order to be understood. Only people willing enough to do that will reach succes. Succes is not something you can understand in a few minutes or achieve. It’s no use about complaining about the means of spreading information on TV. It is not meant to help you, but meant to lower your IQ.

Cable television has reached its peak. It’s no use  complaining about it as it will never change. If you want better, you have to search for better.

I’m kind of walking on a mined zone right now, but I feel like I must share my opinion on the subject as a way to develop a sense of tolerance and understanding through different people and cultures overall. With that being said, may I continue on the subject of cultural appropriation. By all means, I’m not stating that I am 100% right on the matter, but I’m just sharing my point of view on the subject .

Cultural appropriation is a vast topic one can discuss on, but so many people take it the wrong way nowadays. According to the definition found on Cambridge dictionary, cultural appropriation is “the act of taking or using things from a culture that is not your own, especially without showing that you understand or respect this culture”. There are people who literally do the things they do in order to mock a minorities culture, like black face for example, they consciously choose to do a certain thing without any bit of knowledge on where that act first started or how it might affect a minority, and there are people like tourists who go to places like the Eastern side and dress in kimonos(Japanese culture), learn about certain traditions and mannerisms of Eastern countries like the learning of a language, dressing a certain way or learning about the past of a said country. Now, the concept of cultural appropriation comes into picture when people do certain practices without any bit of knowledge about a topic, just for the simple fact that it looks good, mocking (sometimes unconsciously) the origins and true reasons for why something came to happen. The moment a white/western person chooses to dress in some traditional clothing other than their own, show interest in the language of another country, learn about the culture and so on in order to make sure they are not disrespecting the people and the culture, in order to show respect to the so called peers, that differs from cultural appropriation. People who mindlessly do things for the sake of being “trendy” or attracting a certain demografic, they are the ones we should be concerned about as they do not care about the backlash that may come from certain practices as long as it results in mass attention.

Now, not all attention is good attention, but some people just can’t be bothered to understand. The other group of people aside from the one I’ve just talked about just now, the group of people who wish upon experiencing the culture other than their own, they should be encouraged to do so. Don’t put people down for the litless reasons just because they are trying to learn about a culture that is not theirs, and I am exclusively talking about this particular group. By doing so, we’ll be able to embrace and share our joy with the rest of the world without bringing eachother down. That’s how we grow our tolerance level and would be able to grow as a society. Let’s spread kindness instead of hatred and maybe we’ll be able to heal the world we live in. Let’s look past our differences and try to learn at the same time how we’ve turned out the way we are today. Lets try and mend what’s been broken so many times.