I feel like one of the main reason people are so desperate to get a boyfriend/girlfriend because they lack affection. It’s not necessarily because they want to share their experiences with a certain someone, but because they feel like they can get someone to fill up that void for them. That’s why relationships nowadays last for so little, because there is no emotional connection and it’s just the physical part. Physique changes overtime and when that will eventually fade, the two parteners are left with nothing. People tend to exaggerate their feelings and they tend to see the body which excites them, but not what actually counts, which is how a person thinks. It sparks joy for me when I find people who are able to look past the sexual part. They are the people who matter.

After a dear friend of mine left to go back to Taiwan, I’ve felt a huge void within myself. Why, I realised that people don’t really care to take the time to just sit and be there for one another. They don’t care to actually interact and feel for the person in front of them, they would so much rather be stuck with their eyes into their damn phone or trash talk somebody else. We’re in a day and age when it is so much more appealing to bring sexual innuendos into the conversation, trash talk the way someone is living their own life and overall do anything else but just truly enjoy the company of the person they’re hanging out with. Nobody really cares to talk about important issues anymore, nobody really loves that deep connection, that deep discussion to keep you on thinking about it. I feel like that might also be the same reason why our mentality just worsens each single day, we’re just in a stagnating state. How do we expect for things to change if we don’t dare touch on inovative subjects, we don’t discuss the ideas that are running through our heads? We must dare to speak up. We must dare to stand out. Are you going to stand by my side when all of this is going to inevitably go to hell? Create. For the love of God, let us do something.

Hear me out when I say this and make sure it sticks to you like glue: you are not selfish for wanting to live the best life. You are not a horrible person for putting yourself first. You are not obligated to talk to a certain person just because they’ve helped you at one point in your journey only to treat you like shit after. You are you. You are a fully qualified and beautiful person. Treat yourself like you treat everybody else, with respect. Please.

I tend to follow my fathers advice a lot because he’s a wonderful person and I know he wants only the best for me. One thing he’s told me is that I should always surround myself by talented and successful people. That is the only way I can grow, through competition, wanting to be as good as them. With that said, if I ever find myself in a friendship where I feel like I am put on second place, where I feel inferior to the person I am talking to, constantly feeling the need to apologise to them, please them, I should leave. I have only one life to live and I have to make sure I live it right. I’ve cut a lot of ties because of that, if I am no longer talking to you, you’re probably part of one of the two categories I had mentioned. Will I give you an explanation to why I had left? No. That would be too easy and you wouldn’t be able to realise the mistakes you’ve made. Plus I have no obligations to explain myself to you. I have made mistakes myself, of course, but I’ve come in terms with them. Pain always makes us become better as it pushes us to our limits. Try and learn that on your own.

A woman is sexy not by the amount of clothing she decides to wear, but by how she presents herself as an individual. No matter how little or how much a woman decides to wear, it depends on her attitude either or not she should be classified as being “sexy”. Everything stands in the attitude. She can go out comando, but is she’s insecure about herself, she does not have that kind of attitude to rock that ‘look’, it’s all for nothing. It’s not the piece of material that makes the woman be, that shirt or pants or whatever can be taken off, will the attitude go along with it? No, a woman’s character is built throught the years, months or even days. The woman is the statement piece, not the fabric she has on her. Women can dress however they want in order to enhance what they’ve already got. It’s all about enhancing and preserving. Let us not be superficial and look past the physical appearance which can be deceiving, shall we?

It is okay to feel alone at times. It is okay to feel like things are not working out sometimes. What isn’t okay is living your whole entire life with that mentality. Every single thing in our lives is temporary, it depends on us how we look at things and how much importance we give them. We have the power in our hands, everything we do can our favour only if we put our minds to it. Excuses are easy to turn in find. The moment we can identify more excuses and we can construct more negative arguments than positive, we don’t really long for that said “something”. We are human and we change every single day. Every step we take, every thought that runs through our minds, it all works together to build what we are. Be kind to yourself before it’s too late. If you decide to neglect yourself, don’t hope that others won’t do the same. You come first. Everything else should comes second. Treasure yourself. Don’t slip away.

I’m currently dealing with a “I wish I had someone to talk to” episode which makes me want to go back to certain people, but I know it wouldn’t be good for me. I still see them on instagram and it brings me back such heavy nostalgia… But in a way, you know, I feel like it’s better this way. The moment you part ways with a certain individual, it means that you’ve both accomplished your parts in each ones journeys. Don’t try to mend broken friendships or try to go back to them, you are only causing yourself so much harm. That would mean that you’d have to become what you’ve once been, but wouldn’t you consider that as being a shame? All of the work you’ve put into yourself till this very point to go down the drain? I’m just kinda sad, I’m not sure yet how to solve this state I am in..

A trend on tiktok about people using a sound that goes “I’m never gonna be in a relationship because I’m ugly and annoying” has been going around and some people have been receiving backlash from that. They get attacked on the single fact that “they’re just fishing for compliments”. Guys. Self-image and self-love issues are real. You may perceive a certain person as being all of those amazing and beautiful traits, but they might not see it like that. Sure, some could actually be doing that for attention, but we don’t know that. Let people voice how they feel about themselves so that one day they’ll be able to rationalise their emotions. Let them feel whatever they might be feeling to the max. Maybe one day things will change, they’ll grow to see the beauty in themselves. However, there’s also a possibility they might not be able to break out of that space. That’s when we come in, those people need reassure and acceptance. They need kind words in order to grow. They seek that kind of validation that we can provide. Be kind to one another. Don’t go around preaching things if you are also the kind of person to bash others. Valiate ones emotions. Help them out. Who knows, you might help yourself in the process of things.

Emotional manipulation is not talked about enough. Self-love and self-care is falsely preached too much. Nobody warms us about anything that seems taboo. This is not the way to go. People don’t lie when they say that you must find peace within yourself and you must build up that acceptance with who you are first. It took me such a long time to be comfortable in my own skin and mostly importantly with my mindset. It’s taken such a tool on me, for so many years, I’ve mistaken kindness in the favour of someone taking advantage of my naive self and sometimes it turned into manipulation. I’ve let myself get stepped on so many times. This is the time I believe it is really good for me to say it is enough. I lived that emotional hell for me to tell you the tale of it.

My loves, no matter who you are, just know you can turm things around for the better. No day passes by that you can’t do something about the state you might be in right now. Is it bad? You can make it a little bit better. Is it good? You can make it even better. You know what’s best for you and you know what you’ve been through and the things you’ve managed to pull out of these experiences. You don’t have to listen to anyone just because it’s “normal” because someone’s “normal” doesn’t have to be your own. You didn’t live the same life, went through the same struggles for the both of you to identify the same.

1. People say “It’s ok to have depression” no it’s not, encourage people to fight it, not accept it

It is okay to feel depressed as in you shouldn’t feel ashamed of experiencing such emotions, but it is not okay to try and normalise this state of mind. It is a mental illness after all, it is not something you should be proud of. We shouldn’t tell people “oh no, darling, you are amazing” because the emotions a person is experiencing while being under that “influence” is not them. The way we feel does not define us, what defines us is what we do for the world we live in. People who actually experience such illnesses should go seek help ASAP. Why, because there is a very thin line between depression and being suicidal. If left untreated, it can cause some serious damage not only to the person himself/herself, but also to the people around them. I totally agree with your point.

2. When did being suicidal become cool and wHy 😀 Like it’s hell why would you want it

I think it’s because it is so talked about to the point that it’s almost being normalised. You can hear it everywhere, in songs, posts on social media, people making fun of it, it’s everywhere, there’s no escape from it. I assume that people associate with such behaviours because you can ultimately receive attention. It doesn’t matter what kind of attention it is, as long as there is some sort of exposure. People are very simple creatures when it comes to that, as long as someone can feel important, they don’t really care about the measures they have to take in order to achieve that from other people. What most don’t realise is that it is a horrible thing to want or to even think about. It’s horrible, feeling like you are alone in your sadness and feeling like nothing can get you out of that state as you have ultimately lost yourself. This feeling of loneliness can make someone go insane, emphasis on insane.

3. Going to therapy Imfaoo

I honestly cannot stress this enough. I think it also shows how proud some people can be. They assume that they can do everything by themselves, they can easily take the place of someone who had studied for years in the domain. We are human, it’s okay if we are flawed. It’s basically like having a doctors appointment, but instead of checking your physical health, you focus on the mental part of yourself. Most problems actually occur due to us neglecting our mind and soul, thinking that they will get better by themselves. Most times, it doesn’t happen like that. Asking for that kind of profesional help shows that you have noticed something is off with you, you show the fact that you are brave enough to try and create a better version of yourself. People who shame does who go to therapy are not only weak, but extremely immature and close minded. Assuming that someone is insane for wanting to get out of a dark space, for wanting that change in their life, I just hope you never have to go through that pain. I deeply encourage everyone who’s not feeling like themselves to go to therapy, there is nothing shameful about it. If anything, you’re such a courageous and brave soul for doing that.

4. self love. feels like everyone’s struggling with it and they think it’s normal to hate themselves

I think this goes hand in hand with what I’ve just said. Self-love is falsely preached nowadays. Why am I saying that, when people say that they love themselves, they don’t actually mean it. Self-love is usually associated with being wealthy, having fame, having a big following, thats how self-love seems to be defined. I also think that you can’t really reach that kind of acceptance with yourself unless you take the time to get to know yourself. As cheesy as it sounds, you have to come in terms with all the flaws you have, you have to learn about your past, why you behave the way you do and how you can get even better than you currently may be. Self-love also doesn’t have to be everything outside of your persona, as I’ve stated before, your true image is defined by what you do for the environment. We seek approval from others, maybe that’s why we feel the need to always compare ourselves. We “need” to follow the trends, when in reality we have to find the things that work for us.